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Ever notice how your brain lights up with excitement over a new project, only to completely lose interest once the initial thrill wears off? Trust me, I get it. As someone with ADHD who coaches others with ADHD, I’ve spent countless hours researching why our brains seem wired to start things but struggle to finish them. Turns out, it all comes down to dopamine – and I’m about to break it down in a way that will finally make sense.
The ADHD Dopamine Dilemma
Here’s the thing about ADHD brains: we’re naturally running on a dopamine deficit. Think of dopamine as your brain’s motivation fuel. While neurotypical brains might have a full tank, we’re often running on empty. This isn’t just annoying – it’s literally making it harder for us to:
Why Traditional Advice Fails Us
When someone tells you to “just use a planner” or “stick to a routine,” they don’t understand that these solutions are like trying to drive a car without gas. The problem isn’t that we don’t know what to do – it’s that our brains lack the chemical fuel to do it consistently.
The Dopamine Crash Cycle
Remember how exciting it was to post lunch photos on Facebook ten years ago? Now you need 30 minutes of TikTok just to feel a tiny buzz. This is what I call the dopamine crash cycle:
- High stimulation → Your brain gets flooded with dopamine
- Sudden crash → Your brain tries to balance things out
- Higher baseline needed → You need more stimulation to feel the same effect
- Life feels dull → Regular activities stop giving you joy
And guess what? If you already have lower dopamine levels due to ADHD, this cycle hits you even harder.
Breaking Free from the Valley of Despair
Ever notice this pattern?
- Get super excited about a new idea (uninformed optimism)
- Start strong but hit boring/repetitive tasks
- Enter the Valley of Despair
- Abandon ship and start something new
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This is the emotional cycle that keeps us stuck. But here’s what I’ve learned after working with hundreds of ADHD clients:
The Solution: Strategic Dopamine Management
Instead of chasing more dopamine hits, we need to:
- Choose Less
- Pick ONE important thing to focus on
- Make sure it matters enough to push through the hard parts
- Stop the “spray and pray” approach of starting multiple projects
- Pause Before Starting Ask yourself:
- Will the outcome be worth the effort?
- Am I adding something new to avoid fixing an existing problem?
- Is this truly important or am I just chasing dopamine?
- Build Support Systems
- Use body doubling
- Create accountability
- Set up external motivators
ADHD, Dopamine + Why Life Sucks Now
That feeling where nothing seems exciting anymore? That’s anhedonia – the shrinking of life’s pleasures. And while it might feel permanent, it’s not. By managing our dopamine levels more effectively, we can start enjoying the simple things again.
This connection between rising dopamine cravings and the dampening of joy – even for the things we used to love doing – is what concerns me the most. Because I have figured out how to motivate myself and follow through on things, but I also feel like life feels more “meh” these days, and I don’t like it. That’s my major “why” for continuing to manage my dopamine closely.
Practical Steps to Reset Your Dopamine
- Morning Routine
- Delay checking your phone
- Get natural sunlight
- Move your body before screens
- Throughout the Day
- Take regular dopamine breaks
- Celebrate small wins genuinely
- Create periods of lower stimulation
- Environment Setup
- Reduce unnecessary notifications
- Create zones for different activities
- Build in natural rewards
The Path Forward
I cannot stress enough – this isn’t about becoming a different person or forcing yourself into neurotypical patterns. It’s about understanding your brain’s unique chemistry and working with it, not against it.
Having lower dopamine levels isn’t a character flaw – it’s a neurological reality. But once you understand how it affects your motivation, focus, and follow-through, you can start making changes that actually stick.
So next time you feel that familiar pull to start something new, pause. Ask yourself if you’re chasing dopamine or moving toward something meaningful. Your brain will thank you for it.
Ready to Take Action?
Start small. Pick one thing that matters to you and commit to seeing it through the Valley of Despair. Remember, it’s not about perfection – it’s about progress. And if you need support along the way, that’s exactly why I’m here.
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