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So many of my ADHD coaching clients come to me because they want something that they believe they’re incapable of getting on their own. But it turns out, that’s not the case at all.
So in this blog post, I’m going to dive deep into the topic of getting what you truly want in life, especially for those of us with ADHD, who struggle to commit to goals and follow through.
When it Comes to ADHD Goals – Know What You Want and Why You Want It
The first step in getting what you want is to get crystal clear on what exactly what it is want – and why. Do not underestimate how important clarity and alignment is to getting what you want in any area of life. Take some time to reflect on your deepest desires and aspirations. What is it that truly sparks joy and fulfillment in your life? Or are you going after the latest sparkly distraction that caught your interest?
I know this is not an easy step for those of us that crave novelty, but very often chasing fads can take us down distracting (and often destructive paths).
Your true interests are more long-standing. They are part of who you are and you feel a deeper connection to them. This is where you want to focus your energy, while doing the best you can to minimize new distractions that might take you off course.
It’s also crucial to understand why you want what you want. What is the underlying motivation behind your desires? Understanding your why will provide you with the necessary fuel and determination to stay committed to your goals, even in the face of challenges.
Never underestimate how important clarity and alignment is to getting what you want in any area of life.Caren Magill, ADHD Coach
Align Your Goals with Your Values
Once you have identified your desires and motivations, it’s essential to ensure that your goals align with your values. Your values are the guiding principles that define who you are and what is most important to you. By aligning what you want with your values, you create a sense of harmony, authenticity and determination in your pursuit.
Take a moment to assess whether your current goals are aligned with your values. Are they in line with what truly matters to you? If not, it may be time to reevaluate and modify your goals to better align with your core values.
Determining Your Commitment to Your Goals and Taking Action
Or said another way, what are you willing to do to get what you want?
I love this question because it forces you to evaluate the level of effort and sacrifices you are willing to make on your journey.
Be honest with yourself about what you are truly willing to do. Are you willing to put in the necessary time, energy, and resources? Are you willing to step out of your comfort zone and face potential challenges and setbacks? What are you willing to risk and will the reward ultimately be worth it for you? Understanding your level of commitment will help you set realistic expectations and create a plan of action.
Embrace Change and Adaptability
While it’s essential to have a clear vision of what you want, it’s equally important to remain flexible and open to change. Life is unpredictable, and sometimes the path to achieving your goals may take unexpected turns. Be willing to modify your approach and embrace new opportunities that arise along the way.
What I’ve learned about living with ADHD is that the way we reach our goals are rarely linear. We often take detours and our energy can be unpredictable. Accepting this about yourself will make the process so much easier. Otherwise, perfectionism can derail your efforts.
Remember – the way you do things may not be typical, but as long as they work for you, that’s all that matters.
The Missing Step in ADHD Goals – Celebrating Milestones and Practicing Gratitude
Savoring Your Achievements
Sadly, I don’t think this part is given enough credit, but it’s perhaps the most important step (next to being really clear on what you’re going after). Taking time to pause and celebrate your milestones along the way not only helps you calibrate your progress, but it also shapes your identify as a person who follows through on what they set out to do.
So, take a moment to acknowledge and savor your achievements. Reflect on the hard work, determination, and sacrifices that led you to this point.
Cultivating a Gratitude Practice
Going after your goals can sometimes be hard – no doubt about it. But it shouldn’t be a slog all the time. A true sense of fulfillment and happiness can be derived by doing things just because they are important to you. So take time to reflect on the fact that all your efforts to go after what you want are an expression of self-love and a deep sense of worthiness.
The Final Word on Getting What you Want
Getting what you want is a journey of self-discovery, commitment, and adaptability. It starts with gaining clarity on your desires and aligning them with your values. Understanding your level of commitment and being willing to take action are essential steps towards achieving your goals.
Along the way, remember to celebrate your milestones and practice gratitude. Embrace the ups and downs of the journey, knowing that each step forward brings you closer to what you truly want.
So, my fellow ADHD dream chasers, I encourage you to embark on this journey with an open heart and a determined spirit. You have the power to create the life you desire. Now, go out there and get what you want!